Maybe you are, maybe you aren’t – either way, we are all faced with big and small responsibility in our daily lives. There are people who can take responsibility for many people – there are those who are fond of responsibility. Then, there are people who are only responsible for themselves (the vast majority). Then, there are people who can’t take responsibility even for themselves. Sounds familiar?
But here where it gets into a gray area – I am going to throw a curveball at you, because Life gave me a valuable lesson during this Solar Eclipse. And the lesson is: whether you realize it or not, it this:
We are ALL responsible for each other.
In my example, I went to the gym and I saw an older friend being pushed ‘too hard’ by a trainer, as a result he has suffered a stroke – a dehabilitating disease which will require therapy and a long time to recover. Had I SPOKEN UP, complained to the gym management, and exercised my LEADERSHIP skills, I could have prevented this. So I feel partially responsible – because my ego chose to say: “It’s none of my business”. Well guess what? It IS my business. If you know in your heart that something is right, you have to SPEAK UP, and you have to react fairly quickly. You have to be strong and exercise your right of a leader – you may not be “liked” for this, oh no. But you may save a life.
If, for example, a person you don’t know (or barely know) is crossing the street next to you, and a huge truck is suddenly approaching, it inevitably becomes up to YOU to save that person (to stop them, to shout, or even to restrain/tackle them if needed). If a friend is making irresponsible choices in life by doing drugs, drinking, or being in an abusive relationship, it’s up to YOU to take a stand, to speak up, and to do WHAT IS RIGHT – what is right may or may not be something that will make this person immedeately happy (if fact, expect them to put up a resistance) – but in the long haul we know in the heart of hearts and we see (the big picture of it), what is best for that person.
You know, Jesus too could have just preached to the ‘good people’ and avoided all those stupid, ignorant sinners who don’t care to change their lives. Yet, he preached to all and ESPECIALLY to the sinners, because this is who he came to save after all – the ‘lost’ sheep. So where am I going with this? Leadership is a God-like quality which needs to be cultivated. It can start in your own backyard: be responsible for yourselves, by all means! Make the holy trinity all balanced out: the mind, the body, the spirit. But then, also don’t be BLIND to the world around you. Don’t rely on others to ‘know whats best for them’, or think that it’s not your place to butt into other’s lives, just because they hold a superior position, are your parents, your bosses, your seniors. If Jesus thought that, he would probably just be a farmer or a fisherman minding his own business. And yet, Jesus and the Lord are our leaders, because they care for all of us, big and small, at all times, not when they feel like it.
You will see me come back to this topic time and time again (and sprinkling more examples) but the main message, I hope, is clear: whether or not the person next to you is a friend, a parent, a recognized authority, a person older than yourself – ALWAYS, and I repeat always, choose to be the responsible party, a leader rather than the led one; instead of relying on them to be responsible for themselves. Take charge, speak up, and don’t be afraid to voice your opinion loud and clear, and be the best leader you can be. Leadership doesn’t end at work, at home, or in a ‘set environment’. It’s the role that should be natural at all times…. its not like the hat you wear: let it be an essential part of you, like a heart or a liver.
And on this note, I end this post and let yo enjoy your Friday afternoon – life is BEAUTIFUL!!!
So let’s begin today’s HOW TO’s:
- Q: How to act in harsh, trying situations? A: Act cool and with dignity!
- Q: What kind of people should surround me? A: We are a product of our environment. Surround yourself with successful, positive, uplifting people! Surround yourself with people that are BETTER than you.
- Q: How to fortify your spirit? A: Your spirit tempers through overcoming adversities.
- Q: How to overcome your fears? A: Fears create a “fake wall” between you and your success. You must keep walking towards your fears and right through the wall – once you do, the wall will disappear and behind the wall, you’ll find achievement !!!
- Q:How to train the power of your will? A: The stronger your will, the more respected you are. You don’t have to be made out of steel, to have steel willpower! In order to train your willpower, start with making small decisions and following through with them (“I do what I say”). Always honor your own promises to yourself and stick with the words you’ve said to others. There shouldn’t be one “weak word” in your vocabulary. Fill your words with POWER by being truthful to yourself and others.
- Q: What is HAPPINESS? A: It’s not “a warm gun, shoot shoot, bang bang!” Happiness is when all three components of your being are feeling good: the body; the spirit; and the mind. Only when you keep this “holy trinity” well tended, only when you are happy yourself, can you then make “the other party” happy. THUS, we cannot be happy with people who are perpetually unhappy.
- Q: What is TRUE LOVE? A: True love is unconditional, it is the love that mothers love their children with. When you truly love somebody, you experience joy to see the other person HAPPY, you are able to forgive and feel gratitude. In the absence of love, people feel jealousy, anger, and despair.
- How to be a powerful person? A: Being a powerful doesn’t mean being bossy, domineering or controlling. True leadership starts with taking responsibility for yourself and for others – powerful people LOVE to take on huge responsibilities and are accountable/trustworthy.